Such a controversial topic and yet it goes by as normal from doctors and many people. Yet, it is not discussed much in the "Christian circle". It seems that many topics related to life after marriage are not discussed much which leaves me wondering what other people think and do about things-many topics in general. So here is one I have been thinking about...
What to do about it? What to think about it? This has been a thought-provoker and a struggle for us as we have tried to decide what our stand is on it. Last spring I got the book, "The Contraception Guidebook: Options, Risks, and Answers for Christian Couples." I would recommend this for anyone who is trying to research the different options out there about birth control.
I am stuck trying to figure out what is best and what is right. We know that we do not want to have more children at least for a couple years to let the boys grow, give my body some time to go back to normal-physically and emotionally, and save up more money to be able to provide for a larger family. However, what do we do?
I have researched the different methods and although hormonal methods are the most common and most effective, it makes me sick thinking about taking it. (I am currently taking the mini-pill since I am nursing.) The reason it makes me sick thinking about it is because what they don't tell you often is that there are three ways it works and the third is the changing of the lining of the uterus. Which means it makes it a hostile environment so a fertilized egg cannot implant. It is stated so simply. A fertilized egg cannot implant. I believe a life begins at conception and if something I am taking makes my body reject a fertilized egg, I am losing a child without even knowing it. It is so awful to even think about. Yet, what other options are there. I have researched the charting method, however with being pregnant or nursing since December 2007, it makes that a little difficult because there is nothing to go off of for detecting a change. I know there are people out there that will say to put it in God's hands, however, if we do not use a form of birth control, we will get pregnant: ie Logan. I was even on the pill when I got pregnant with Roman. That situation proves to me that if God wants a life, it will happen. However it is still a difficult topic. I am in a quandary. The guarantee of some options to not get pregnant for 3 or 5 years sounds very appealing, but the side affects do not and they also thin the lining of the uterus.
So my question to you is: What is your opinion on the subject?
Luke 23:28-29
28Jesus turned and said to them, "Daughters of Jerusalem, do not weep for me; weep for yourselves and for your children. 29For the time will come when you will say, 'Blessed are the barren women, the wombs that never bore and the breasts that never nursed!' 30
A sad picture of what is happening in our society.
Hi! Ok, this is something that we've discussed many times. I could easily have thousands of babies and love the thought of it, but realistically speaking, it's not smart at this very moment. I can't trust my body for the natural birth control (I got pregnant with Zi at the time when I was LEAST expecting it!). I decided I would NEVER take the pill again becuase I just had a bad feeling about it. What we have been using, and what we have decided works best for us is VCF (vaginal contraceptive film) http://www.vcf-contraceptive.com/whatisvcf.html ...It is the least invasive of all the options and has worked well so far! :) Ultimately, we are trusting that the Lord is both sovereign and faithful.
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